Learning the Montessori way

As most of you know I have a passion for providing free and self directed play, especially in nature, for families. I have noticed there is a lot of articles out there stating children need only play based curriculums during the first 6 years of life to become successful and that teaching formal education at an early age is not required. My children are still little however I observe their aptitude for academia and I wanted to write about our experience and how supportive and empowering formal education has been for them, coupled with play.

I have observed first hand all the incredible skills that blossom during play time such as social navigation, resilience strengthening, creativity and imagination development, to name a few. And have a desire to offer these opportunities to my children and to all families. However, due to the observation of my own kids, plus my insight into the work of Maria Montessori, I have my doubts that this alone would have been enough for them.

Since my son was little I've observed his thirst for different languages. When he was 3 years old he would come up with homophones (words that sound the same and have different meanings) and this year he taught himself the Hebrew songs for the Jewish celebration of Passover by listening to Spotify. My son's teachers recognised his ‘sensitive period’ for language and with Montessori tools, he was able to gain a concrete understanding of letter sounds, letter formations and now has a strong basis to read and write successfully which has become his focus at four and a half. The sensitive periods are noticeable times in the child's development where the child can learn specific concepts more easily and naturally.

My daughter attends the Early Learners program at Melbourne Montessori. In this program they are 'helping her to help herself' which is the philosophy that echoes throughout the whole school. She is learning to care for her body independently, given opportunities to strengthen her hand muscles with puzzles and playdoh and is exposed to sensorial experiences such as sound and smell matching games which intentionally introduces the world around her. Although she may come across these skills with well intentioned parents, I know that I have a lot to learn from the very experienced teachers who care for her.

The skills in which my children are learning in their formal school environment are supported by their free play experiences at home and visa versa. Building up the proficiency of self-discipline, concentration and motivation are skills that are empowered both at school and at home. Since birth, we have encouraged independent play using a 'Yes' space coined by Janet Lansbury. A very safe place to play without interruption and any interference from adults as the child is free to do as they wish as there is no safety concerns. This space in our home indirectly strengthens our child’s focus muscle and internal desires to concentrate for long periods of time in their play.

At Montessori school, learning to focus and concentrate for long periods of time is an intentional area of development within the curriculum. Each individual child is encouraged to reach their full potential and building the skills of self-motivation and self-discipline is core in continuing in their life learning journey. These specific skills are embedded into every aspect of the classroom in both unassuming ways such as waiting for their turn at the snack table or more directly in endeavouring to do a  ‘job’ that has many concrete materials the child needs to collect before engaging with the activity.

I believe ‘play’ alone would not be enough for my children. I must admit that I have not seen first hand Peter Gray's 'Sudbury Valley School' or the formal forest school I read so much about. I look forward to one day having the opportunity to visit.

I can see that my children have a huge appetite to learn academia and delve into the world around them and for now I feel so lucky that Melbourne Montessori is available for us.
The school provides a wonderful support to the environment we wish to create for our children to be competent individuals who respect themselves, others and the world around them.

Why the Montessori Philosophy?

Montessori for our family

It’s 5.30am and Mav (4 ½ years old) wakes for the day. He comes down stairs stops by the kitchen to get himself a snack and continues to his play area to build on his carpark from the day before. At 6am his little sister (2 years old) wakes and calls out. Mav goes upstairs, zips her out of the sleeping bag, brings her downstairs and butters her a cracker and makes two bowls of muesli. They sit together, eating and chatting. At 7am my husband and I wake up getting ready for the day.

Now this doesn’t happen every morning, but it is encouraged and happening more frequently. We continue the morning routine with the motto in mind, ‘helping them to help themselves’ inspired by Maria Montessori. The feelings of self-assurance, competence and care for themselves, others and their environment, is my heart wish for my children. These values are deeply embedded in the Montessori philosophy and this is why it is a great fit for our family.

It has been a constant deepening of our understanding of this philosophy, both for home life and school. The home life aspect feel’s pretty right for us because it’s amazing watching our children gain confidence in their abilities more and more. However as a professional primary school teacher, I have had my critical glasses on full force when it came to the school learning. However so far at each stage of our experience at The Melbourne Montessori School, both my husband and I cannot fault it.

The thought and care at every stage for the individual child would be one that I would of loved to give my students when I was teaching. Each child in the class is met at their own level academically, socially, physically and emotionally. The Montessori method is about guiding the child to succeed. Only giving them tasks which the teacher knows they can achieve. Slowly and bit by bit, my son for example was introduced to language through games and story books and then sound games like 'I spy'. At the moment he is at the stage where he has started to read. The words he cannot recall, he works out through his sound knowledge. This is true scaffolding that was tailored to my sons individual needs. He did not need to wait to get support when the rest of the class was ready and he is supported to go as far as he wants. Age, curriculum checklists and teaching resources are not a hindrance.

Maria Montessori studied and observed children in her care. It is something I have also enjoyed to do and I find it a powerful tool in raising my children. One aspect she observed is a child’s sense of order. Like her, I have found my children love order and find it reassuring when they know what happens at bedtime, where their toys get packed away, what days they go to school and the list goes on and on. I invite you to watch Montessori classroom youtube videos, the order and care in the classroom is something I envy for my own home.

(Inside The Melbourne Montessori School  https://youtu.be/O2FanxEK5Gk )

My children love to clean and I know for certain they are not unusual.  Maria Montessori recognized that although adults see this as laborious work, the children love to be involved and do the work that is purposeful. I do not have to ask my children to do chores. They clean the benches, pack the dishwasher, help fold laundry and even clean my bedroom all without being asked. And of course this is very much welcomed. My children feel like contributing members in our house. Mimicked from their classrooms, we have set up in our own home independent drink stations, plates and cutlery that can be accessed by them, all their play objects including art supplies are at their level. My two year old is not independent enough to pack away but this is being scaffolded to ensure her independence one day.

Another aspect of Montessori philosophy which I have seen blossoming between my children is the courtesy and respect they have for themselves and others. These skills are explicitly taught in class and with much encouragement and support it is translated at home. In the cycles of a Montessori school, the children are with three or more age groups. The class is like a family unit. There are the youngest, middle and oldest children and depending on development and readiness the oldest are being taught how to teach, support and take care of their younger peers. My son who is only four encourages his sister by ‘helping her to do it herself’. It is beautiful to witness as he has been treated like that from his teachers and older peers and now in class having this opportunity to treat the younger children with respect and care. The two siblings have countless arguments and fights but I can see that they are open to finding solutions together and are able to work it out with or without my help.

Montessori is one of a few philosophies we adopt in raising our children to be who they are. At the moment, I am witnessing a beneficial cohesion between home and school life. I am enjoying watching my children flourish and bloom.